Happy New Year!
What a year 2017 has been! In my personal life, it’s been a great year. From welcoming multiple friend’s babies to dropping my cousin off at college, it’s all been blissful. However, there has been some negatives that I don’t share. From family members in heaven to family health scares, my family and I have experienced a lot of sadness as everyone does during a year. In my professional life, there’s been highs and some lows. I think anytime you change departments or jobs whether it’s in the home or in an office there’s a new way to handle your career. I’ve heard multiple people say that “we can have it all, it just might not be all at the same time.” I really have thought about that and I think it’s something that we should teach one another. We all can accomplish that, but not all at the same time. There are days we walk out of work succeeding at our careers and then days we feel like we are just doing the bare minimal. There are days we feel like perfect girlfriends, wives, and mothers and then there are days we feel like we did everything wrong. No one can do everything in their lives perfect at the same time and that is something I thought about on New Year’s, and accepted that. It really let me set free of 2017. We all have so many different roles in life and for me, I have started to appreciate that I don’t succeed at every single role every single day. That is something I pray about and know that my Savior is there when I am weak and He is strong.
If you’ve ever made your own list of resolutions, you know what starts happening around February. January starts off so well, but by February you’ve already started snoozing your alarm, skipping the gym, scrolling through your phone right when you wake up, and those resolutions you “committed” to starting to become more of a drag. I’ve been there before, countless years in a row actually. I get frustrated at my own lack of self-discipline. As I’ve now written my own list of resolutions for 2018, I want to share a couple of them with you!
PUTTING THE WORD BEFORE SOCIAL MEDIA IN THE MORNINGSI’ve noticed a pattern in the last year of waking up, grabbing my phone, and scrolling through it first thing in the mornings. I’ve used this “scrolling” mechanism to help my body wake up, but the Lord knows that when I get done with my scrolling that my heart is lazy and has a lack of discipline. The first moments of your day shapes the rest, and we’ve all allowed the things of the world to be more tempting than spending time in the Word. That’s why I am resolving that problem in my life, putting the Word back where it needs to go, first!
BE MORE INTENTIONALI want to have intention with every aspect of my life; personal and work. When I have the intention to do something, I want to follow through and not just say yes to make people happy. Intent is something that everyone has, but we all have to remind ourselves and remember to do whatever it is we said we would do. Which is why I want my yeses to lead my life into a more peace, growth with others, relationships, and happiness. I don’t want my yeses coming from an attitude of obligation or routine. I also want my intentions with yes to be the same with no’s. I don’t want to be afraid of using the work no, maybe a trip isn’t the best timing or being burnt out on being on the go… I want to be able to say with confident the use of the work no with a healthy and loving heart/way.
EMBRACING PEOPLE NOT LIKING YOUOne of the hardest things I deal with is when people don’t like me. It’s been in the making, but I want to try this year to embrace that. We were not put on this earth to have the same similarities with interests, tastes, personalities, etc like everyone else. Each person is unique and no one is required to please everyone. I’ve had to step back and understand that I truly cannot make everyone happy and I’m doing my best to be okay with that. I have to do what is best for me, my family, my work life and do it all with kindness. I’ve heard this from many friends and family that know I struggle with this… you shouldn’t dull your shine for someone else. Make sure to keep on shining!
BE STRONG AND HEALTHYCreate a list of new healthy recipes with Ryan to try this year (I will share them on the blog if you are interested). Being healthy doesn’t have to be boring! There are so many different recipes out there, so step out of your comfort zone and try new healthy ways to cook. When we run out of healthy foods and want a snack we resort to bad decisions. Prioritizing grocery shopping is key with snacks. We chop up cucumbers and apples to have on hand for something easy to grab. Make sure to hold one another responsible for working out or being active 3-4 times a week. When you both can share fitness goals it helps when you are tired not wanting to workout. We can support one another which is invaluable!
MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHERSomething I want to make sure me and Ryan do is make time for each other. I’m such a homebody and date nights on the couch seem so tempting, I want to make sure Ryan and I continue to go on dates (it’s the best for us – I’ve read a book recently about “us” rather than “I”). Alone time and being out of the house is so good for a relationship. Not sitting in front of the TV or starring at your phone is something we both struggle with. So getting out of the house helps get out of the routine of things and who doesn’t like trying new restaurants!
Do you set goals for the New Year? I would love to hear all about them!